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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh Op. He sounds like my father. And let me tell you, I was a miserable kid. I kid you not, when I came home with 95% on a math exam in high school, he asked me where the other 5 were. How is he towards the kids? They may be young now but he may end up being a controlling perfectionist ass with them too. [/quote]

He pushes, though he's positive about it. He's basically a Tiger Dad. He came from nothing and he had a Tiger Mom/Dad with no education and I think that's how he thinks its done.  I think he expected me to be a Tiger Mom but I'm pretty Type B.

Example: Larlo practices his new song on the piano. DH says 'Great job, I love the way that sounded, but there was a small issue with the fingering towards the end! Let's practice it 5 more times till there isn't a single mistake!!'. 
You get the idea.

How he interacts with me. We're eating a quick meal veggie burrito bowls, and this is how the conversation goes:
Him - 'This tastes really good, I like how you added tofu to it. Did you use the canned beans?' 
Me-"Yeah I did. How did you know?". 
Him "Oh there is a slight tinny taste. Don't worry, still tastes really good! So how come you used canned? soaked and cooked beans are much better!" 
Me - "I was going to make something else but I came home from work a little later and had to fix something fast"
Him 'Well, canned beans really should just be for emergencies. [b]Why don't you just tell me the night before how work is going to go for you, [/b]and I will soak and make the beans for you so you don't have to use canned beans?'
Me - "ok"

Do you see what I mean? it's not necessarily mean...it just doesn't given anyone room to be anything other than perfect. 
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Sorry OP. I could never live like this - I'm far too type B to deal - but this one made me laugh.  If my DH said this I probably would laugh, followed by a 'sorry, my magic 8 ball must have been broken last night.'

I also wonder how your DH does at dealing with the unexpected? When things go off plan? [/quote]

Not well. He gets annoyed. Not like angry yelling but just complains endlessly. Its really annoying to listen to someone complain for hours about something you have no control over, like traffic, for instance. What is the point? 
If its anything health related about any of us (kids, me, his parents) he gets crazy stressed. Like making tons of phone calls, getting second opinions, reading tons of articles staying up at night. It looks, visibly, like frantic energy. Its actually impacted how I deal with the kids or my health issues - I tend to do it entirely on my own without his input because I cant handle being around his anxiety.  His reactions make me over-react. [/quote]

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