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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm SAH by default because we moved right after DS (1yr) was born, and I haven't found a job.  We have a very low cost of living now, and few expenses. I also stockpiled a lot of cash before leavin my job, so we have decent savings for future expenses (bigger house etc) down the line when I start working again. So this isn't about money/financial pressure. DH has a stressful job, and a lot of responsibility gets piled onto him. But he's had this job for many years- it's not like he had to step up because he got married and had a baby. He would still have this job if he were single.  Anyway, he's starting to resent me-he makes offhand comments about how he hates going to work and he's jealous of me.  Lately, he's doing zero housework.  He doesn't even bus his own plate after dinner. If I don't pick it up, it will sit there for eternity. The one delineated chore he's supposed to do is trash, but he hasn't done it in weeks.  I don't want a fight, but this is becoming really irritating, and I feel like a chore mule.  I feel like because of his resentment, if I say something, he's going to be a jerk about it and we'll get in a fight. Any advice or btdt?[/quote]
Op do not look at this a something to do with you being a SAH(Though you do come off as being a bit princessy). Your DH is giving you a heads up. He is most likely stressed at work and burnt out. Maybe something has changed and he is worried about keep his job. He does not know how to talk to you about it- maybe you like the life you have a little too much? Better get to the root of the problem and fit it(his job/career). If you don't he may come home one day laid off or fired. [/quote]

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