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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are 100% certain you won't take care of her, don't let her stay with you after a hospital stay or you will be stuck with her for a while. It sounds awful to say but hospitals need to discharge patients and will push/guilt you in to taking your parent.[/quote]

I am sorry but this sounds horrible. We are talking about a parent here. What has gone so wrong that we are ready to toss our elderly and vulnerable parents out on the streets. This is sad.[/quote]

You don't know what you're talking about unless you lived it. My mother and I have a tense relationship, but I'd give her whatever help she needed. We already provide significant financial support to my FIL, even though his current situation is entirely his own fault and he's incredibly entitled about it. I'd walk through fire to help my MIL, she's amazing. But when my father was getting discharged from an in-patient rehab center (physical rehab, not substance abuse unfortunately) and the doctor was heavily pressuring me to take him in because he was homeless at that point, I said no. I said no because some people are so incredibly toxic and abusive that the level of harm and destruction they bring to you is simply unbearable. He was not just a falling-down drunk who would do things like pee, shit and vomit all over the place and leave it there for others to clean, who would tell such gross and awful lies about me to other people that I once ended up with the police at my door due to a story he'd made up about me, but he also came onto me more than once in very explicit ways as a young adult. I stayed in the picture enough to ensure he moved through the social services system (they found a halfway house for him to go to), but that was as close to it as I could get. There was no way I could even talk to him, let alone let him live with me.[/quote]

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