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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not think a parent is owed anything. I do not understand this mindset. If my parent was an asshole I would not help even a little. [/quote]
Many states legally disagree with you and will hold you responsible, allowing health care providers, hospitals and nursing homes to sue you directly to pay your parents' bills.[/quote]

Not true.  When you enroll your parent in a nursing home, you sign a form stating you will be financially responsible or not.  We had this happen where the nursing home did some really shady financial stuff and tried to go after us.  We went for legal guardianship (you do do this when your parent is not of sound mind -very easy to do) and became social security rep. payee and now they have to allow us to make all decision but we are not financially responsible.  Usually you have to agree for them to hold you accountable.  If your parent is on medicaid, they cannot ask for more than the parent's social security check.  Its more of an issue private pay and OP mom cannot private pay.[/quote]

It really depends on which state you are in. If OP is in PA, watch out! [/quote]

what if op's mother is in PA but she is several states away? any insight there?[/quote]

My MIL was cross-country.  We flew out a few times to determine it was time to move her.  You either have to go in person as a lot of benefits have to be face-to-face or hire someone to manage some things.  You can easily do bill pay and other stuff online.  Its very hard to do it long distance so we moved my MIL as she was declining but while it was still possible to move her.  We could not manage it long distance and she got taken advantage of.[/quote]

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