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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^if you've got school-age kids and "household staff" you're not working like a big law partner. No shame in that. Nice work if you can get it. But be real. [/quote]

Why do you make this a competition? -  saying a SAHM is not like working at Big Law and admonishing to "be real". The fact that someone is "not working like a biglaw partner" doesn't mean that they are not working hard and not making a valuable contribution.  Would you be less harsh if the wife didn't SAHM but was a librarian or a pre-school teacher?  Are those professions automatically to be devalued because they are "not working like a biglaw partner"?

My SAHM still "worked" when the kids were school-age.  She worked from 6:30-8:30, getting us up, packing lunches, driving school carpool.  Then from 9-2:30 she was "free" after the housework was done if no one was sick or had medical appointments.  Then she worked again from 2:30 to 10ish.  That's more than an 8 hour day.  But, don't forget the weekends, when she was often on again, taking the kids to sports games, extra-curricular lessons, tutoring, etc.

You might not feel this is "work" because it is not paid for by an external 3rd party, in fact not paid at all, or some of it can be outsourced and men and women can do this work (although in this SAHM scenario, the woman is doing the father's unpaid half of family work as well so he can devote more time to lucrative paid work - not a bad strategy if the lawyer bills 500-750/hr or more as many DC BigLaw do).  But the fact that it is unpaid or easy or done by everyone doesn't mean it's not work.

It does everyone a disservice to diminish this work, because we all have to deal with it, even if some of us choose to do it ourselves and others of us choose to deal with it by outsourcing.

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