2nd thought not 222nd.^^

Anonymous wrote:I'm a young guy, and I want to date( and eventually marry) a girl who would be willing to be a homemaker. Where can I find girls like this? Are there any dating sites for this kind of thing?

Girls are females under age16, you chauvinistic cretin. Thankfully, you will find it next to impossible to find a grown woman who will give you a 222nd thought. PIG!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a young guy, and I want to date( and eventually marry) a girl who would be willing to be a homemaker. Where can I find girls like this? Are there any dating sites for this kind of thing?

Most universities. A lot of women go to get an MRS degree.

This is great advice for 1976. Not such good advice for 2016. Look at the average age that female college grads get married. It's not 22.

more like 26, but the beautiful good women get taken earlier

You mean the low lying fruit?

Pew's 2011 data is an average age of 27. If I wanted a SAH spouse, I'd feel more comfortable marrying someone who had at least some years of steady adult employment under their belt. It shows both the ability to be responsible day in and out, as well as reassuring me that they could care for my kids in the event of my untimely death.

He wouldn't take care of your kids in the event of your untimely death. He would find a younger model to care for his poor motherless babes and she would finish raising them.

Go away, troll. You're probably 50 and live in mom's basement. You never had a date, much less the means to support a SAH partner.

In the DMV, the average age for a first marriage is 29, so OP, keep looking. Also, get some maturity and work experience. Grow and experience life. Marry a peer who shares your values and has equal education, work, experience and dreams because then you have a better chance of making it work.

SAH partners make heavy sacrifices, especially given the lack of respect we get from morons like PP here, so expect to give your SAH partner -- if you're lucky enough to find one -- lots of love, respect, support and willingness to coparent.

"Housewife" is an outdated sexist concept. A SAH parent can be male or female, straight, gay or fluid. A SAH parent is not a slave to serve as maid, cook, valet and chauffeur, but is a parent trying to nurture kids full time while maintaining a (usually very active) home. Losers like PP are unworthy of such partners -- or any at all.

OP, if you want to be worthy of marrying someone who will stay at home to parent your children full time, make your way in the world and gain enlightenment and compassion. Then, you'll find somebody truly compatible.
Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:^^if you've got school-age kids and "household staff" you're not working like a big law partner. No shame in that. Nice work if you can get it. But be real.

Why do you make this a competition? - saying a SAHM is not like working at Big Law and admonishing to "be real". The fact that someone is "not working like a biglaw partner" doesn't mean that they are not working hard and not making a valuable contribution. Would you be less harsh if the wife didn't SAHM but was a librarian or a pre-school teacher? Are those professions automatically to be devalued because they are "not working like a biglaw partner"?

My SAHM still "worked" when the kids were school-age. She worked from 6:30-8:30, getting us up, packing lunches, driving school carpool. Then from 9-2:30 she was "free" after the housework was done if no one was sick or had medical appointments. Then she worked again from 2:30 to 10ish. That's more than an 8 hour day. But, don't forget the weekends, when she was often on again, taking the kids to sports games, extra-curricular lessons, tutoring, etc.

You might not feel this is "work" because it is not paid for by an external 3rd party, in fact not paid at all, or some of it can be outsourced and men and women can do this work (although in this SAHM scenario, the woman is doing the father's unpaid half of family work as well so he can devote more time to lucrative paid work - not a bad strategy if the lawyer bills 500-750/hr or more as many DC BigLaw do). But the fact that it is unpaid or easy or done by everyone doesn't mean it's not work.

It does everyone a disservice to diminish this work, because we all have to deal with it, even if some of us choose to do it ourselves and others of us choose to deal with it by outsourcing.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a young guy, and I want to date( and eventually marry) a girl who would be willing to be a homemaker. Where can I find girls like this? Are there any dating sites for this kind of thing?

Most universities. A lot of women go to get an MRS degree.

The whole concept of an MRS degree is sexist.

OP, find someone you love who share the same values you do. State at that outset that you want a family and you're looking for someone who would consider becoming SAHM. You'll risk rejection, but don't you want to skip the women who aren't really interested in your goals anyway? Be direct, let the ones who don't want the same things go, and focus on the right one for your future.

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a Happy SAHM

this whole topic is sexist,

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it seems that is the way these women want it, different roles based on sex.

i see no comments about dads that stay at home, only females.

I hope my daughter does not grow up like these women.

^^if you've got school-age kids and "household staff" you're not working like a big law partner. No shame in that. Nice work if you can get it. But be real.

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Anonymous wrote:You are getting a lot of unfair comments. My wife is a SAHM. A lot of women become SAHMs without knowing it is a choice they would make when they are single. My DW is a lawyer, so she has earning power.

The number 1 factor is YOUR income. You need to make a lot of money so your future wife's decision whether SHE wants to stay home is made without regard to money.

+ 1.

Most women want to stay home but can't because their spouses do not earn enough.

Ooh, please link to the source for your statement that "most women want to stay home." I'd love to see it!

Check out the stats on SAHMs. It is U shaped which means it goes up tremendously once the person with a job starts making a lot of money (say, 500k +). Rich wives have always opted to do their own thing when they can. Some have "hobby" careers, like a little boutique, but they don't expect it to make any money. Some volunteer extensively.

Thanks for looking at SAHMing so cynically. My dad was a big law partner. My mom SAHMd. She made his career earning lots of money possible. She wasn't laying around eating bon bons. She was busy taking us to schools, sports, monitoring homework, taking us to medical appointments, showing up for our events, hosting parties and playdates for us, paying bills, doing all the grocery shopping, meal planning, meal making, meal clean up, supervision of all household staff, maintenance of all family relationships, and being caretaker of all when my Dad traveled for work, hosting business associates, etc. My mom worked as hard as my dad for his Big Law salary. He never would have been able to put in the high number of billable hours required for Big Law partnership if my Mom hadn't been picking up the slack. She's never been able to "do her own thing" unless she squeezed it into the little time she had when she wasn't serving her husband or kids.

What a beautiful thing to say about your mom. I scrolled down a bit - so like DCUM to rip something like this to shreds.

Notice how the big law guy who mentioned how much he appreciates his SAHM wife was completely ignored.

Foreign brides! Duh!

Spend a year or two in Southeast Asia. If you have a top law school JD or a top MBA under your belt even better. If you don't, get admitted to one before you go and defer. Failing that, lie. You will do well. Plenty of nice girls there would be happy to sign on to that gravy train and stay home and raise kids.

Downside is she may park her whole extended family in your house and suddenly that 5 bdr in Chevy Chase isn't so big.

Anonymous wrote:Become Amish. Become a hassidic jew. Move to Saudi Arabia. Move to Egypt.

I hope you want lots of kids, because housewives usually want lots of kids.

Fail. Hasidic women work their modestly-covered asses off so their husbands can study Torah all day long.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a young guy, and I want to date( and eventually marry) a girl who would be willing to be a homemaker. Where can I find girls like this? Are there any dating sites for this kind of thing?

Most universities. A lot of women go to get an MRS degree.

This is great advice for 1976. Not such good advice for 2016. Look at the average age that female college grads get married. It's not 22.

more like 26, but the beautiful good women get taken earlier

You mean the low lying fruit?

Pew's 2011 data is an average age of 27. If I wanted a SAH spouse, I'd feel more comfortable marrying someone who had at least some years of steady adult employment under their belt. It shows both the ability to be responsible day in and out, as well as reassuring me that they could care for my kids in the event of my untimely death.

He wouldn't take care of your kids in the event of your untimely death. He would find a younger model to care for his poor motherless babes and she would finish raising them.

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Anonymous wrote:Preschool and elementary school teachers.

Absolutely not true!!

They make pretty good mothers, IMHO.

Some do, but not all. Don't generalize. It's a misconception.

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Anonymous wrote:Preschool and elementary school teachers.

Absolutely not true!!

They make pretty good mothers, IMHO.

Anonymous wrote:Preschool and elementary school teachers.

Absolutely not true!!

Preschool and elementary school teachers.