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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I can see that you're pretty tormented by this.  You've opened yourself to BF in a way that you've never done with anyone before, and that's a huge deal.

Maybe your concern about his sexual history has at least something to do with anxiety you feel about being in this new place in life.  You're closer to BF than you've ever been with anyone before, and as great as it is you have some unease with all the vulnerability it brings.

To me at least, it makes more sense to think about your own reactions to being in an intimate relationship, rather than focusing on BF's sexual history.

It's all new territory for you, and maybe you could even use a little help taking it all in.  I think that's why you came to DCUM, but a therapist would serve you better.[/quote]

+1.

Also, I was suddenly more curious about how other people lost their virginities right after I lost mine. And I cared a lot more about other people's proposals around the time I got engaged. And I was more curious about weddings when I was planning mine. So some curiosity is natural![/quote]

Thank you two for not being mean to me.
I don't think I'm explaining myself well. I don't want to judge him or anyone. I think the hard thing for me is that he won't  give me a  answer. [quote]I know he says he doesn't remember,[/quote] but I don't see how that can be true. But maybe I don't understand because  this all new to me.[/quote]

That explains everything.  The first time doesn't have as much or the same kind meaning for everyone.  It's perfectly plausible that he doesn't remember or just doesn't want to.  My first time is certainly not something I like to recall, let alone discuss, and doing so would really taint whatever thing I'm trying to preserve with the person I'm with right now.

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