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[quote=Anonymous]"What's the matter with you" is TOTALLY RUDE. You could say, "You seem upset today honey. I hope nothing happened that's got you down." That is sympathetic. That welcomes a conversation. That shows that you care how they feel. "What is the matter with you"?!?!?! That makes it seem like their feelings make them broken somehow, or not up to par. The emphasis is on how they are making YOU feel, rather than how they feel. It is also an accusation. "What's wrong with you that you won't act the way I want?!" It's such a rude, rude question I am astonished anyone would defend it. There are a thousand kind, loving ways to say, "I notice that you seem unhappy and I love and care for you." That is going to get you a hell of a lot farther than "What's the matter with you?"[/quote]
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