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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Who ARE these people who find the question, "What is the matter with you?" offensive? If I am being rude, crabby, and snappish with everyone around me, then it is perfectly fine for someone to ask me that question. For most normal people, getting asked that question signals that (a) they are being horrid and (b) they need to be nicer. Of course, it's a matter of tone. Usually if I ask that question, I may be signaling to someone that they're being difficult, but use a gentler tone of voice that invites them to vent about whatever is eating them. 
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I think the question "what's the matter with you" is rude.  It implies that there's something wrong with the person, and that if there is some defect in them causing their unhappiness.  If you know me well enough to call me out on something, you can just go ahead and say that I need to be nicer or that you feel I'm being mean.  Asking someone "what's going on?" or "is something  wrong" is fine.  I also just think asking a 6 year old kid "what's the matter with you" is ridiculous.  They don't know, or won't be able to articulate, in response to such a vague and open ended question.   [/quote]

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