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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm amazed that so many people's parents give money with out strings attached.  So, if they are paying for your kids tuition, do they not suggest or offer any input on which school kids attend or anything like that?[/quote]

Most parents aren't just giving un-earnmarked money. They're giving it for a specific purpose, ie - tuition, down payment, extra cash for a nice anniversary dinner, piano lessons, etc.

So, in that sense, it's like an earmarked contribution rather than general budgetary support. One could argue that exercises some amount of control, but on the other hand, I see it more as an endorsement of decisions we already agree on. My parents offered to covered the fees for an activity they think is worthwhile - they don't need to exert control or influence over me to get me to do it, as I already want to and they're just trying to make it an even easier decision for me by covering the cost. Conversely, they don't feel entitled to having an opinion about how we organize our overall finances as they aren't contributing to our general budget. They have in the past offered generous gifts that we've turned down simply because they were things we didn't want or need. There were no hard feelings. [/quote]

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