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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is a bone of contention in our family.  My parents can afford to be and have been generous -- but I am the only sibling that doesn't take advantage of that generosity.

My mom pays for a housecleaner for us twice a month.  We could afford to pay for it ourselves but my DH thinks it's a stupid expenditure.  If we didn't have a housecleaner, our house would be dirtier and we would fight more.  My mom started paying for this when I complained to her that I was trying to get enough writing done to get tenure at my university, and my husband was complaining that the house was dirty.  In other words, you might argue that my mom's gift enables me to stay in a bad marriage.

She also gives me some money monthly while allows me to buy the stuff that otherwise DH and I would fight about.  The kids want Northface and my husband wants Walmart brand fleeces and I use mom's money to make up the difference.

On the other hand, my parents bought my sister a house since she divorced her deadbeat husband and otherwise would't have been able to aford one.

They pay for some expensive private school for my brother's kids but refused to pay for private school for my kids because they're only willing to pay if it's a Catholic school and we're not Catholic.

When we go to visit them, we drive but my sibs will only come if my parents buy them plane tickets.

You could argue that my parents are help subsidize my sibling's lifestyle but not mine, but you could also argue that enabling my contentious marriage is perhaps worse.
Dunno.  I'm sure you guys all have opinions . . [/quote]

Does your husband know your parents are paying for your housecleaner and your allowance? This wins most codependent and adult child post of the thread. I honestly feel sorry for you. Why don't you divorce your husband and let your parents buy you a house, find Jesus and let your parents send you to Catholic school, and live off of your alimony from your husband? Continue to allow your Mommy to pay for your housecleaner since you don't like cleaning? Then you truly never have to grow up?

I'm sorry, I know that that isn't a very kind post of mine, but you are getting treated like a child yet still feel like you aren't getting "enough" from  your parents OR your husband? Yikes. [/quote]

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