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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If someone marries me, I presume they like having sex with me. If they say no, obviously I will stop. But if they say nothing at all and don't push me away then I assume it's okay.

It's ridiculous that suggesting that someone speaks up and let's their thoughts known is victim blaming. Some people just want to be victims, I guess, without putting in any work to change the world around them. [/quote]

Exactly this! Unless I specifically say "no" in my marriage, it means yes.[/quote]

That's kind of fucked up.  Unless you're just saying you're normally game for it. [/quote]

Um, yea. Why wouldn't I normally be up for it? Isn't that the point of being married and sharing an intimate life as opposed to having to start from square one and getting explicit consent every time? No always means no, but silence means different things depending on the context. Of course so many of you are in sexless marriages and otherwise screwed up situations...[/quote]

2 entirely different issues: (1) If folks are normally up for sex in a marriage, and (2) if it's OK to presume 'yes' in a marriage. #2 is the problem.  It's OK to assume you'll get the yes, it's never OK to assume you already have it.[/quote]

Wait, so you want me to be faithful, but I can't presume that you'll consent to sex? Hahahahaha. Please. If we are married, I assume you are fine with me touching you, end of story. I won't push if you say no, but if you want me to woo you every time to get to yes... Lol I'd rather be with some young thing that wants me. [/quote]

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