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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I don't know how best to explain it. I want him to want to get me the best ring he can because he thinks I deserve that and nothing less. Starting the talk with, I cant get you X ring because I can't afford it, isn't exactly romantic.

And for the record, we have been talking marriage and engagement for a whole year now. I have told him how, I do not wear ANY jewelry and the only piece of jewelry I want to wear forever is my engagement ring so I want it to be nice and special.

I feel so hurt that given how much time he has had, and how much I have emphasized it, he just goes and head and wants to disregard my wishes for and get me something last minute knowing well its not what I want or expect.

Rude much?[/quote]

NP here.  If it came down to not be engaged while he saved up for the perfect ring (say it could be another 2 years) or being engaged now, which do you prefer?  For me, considering the costs of weddings, housing etc, I would prefer to build life together and get the nicer jewelry once we are better established than delay.

That said, only you know if your guy is generous and romantic and can't afford a more expensive ring and just wanted to be upfront so you weren't disappointed versus he has $1000 to spend on a hobby but $50 to spend on the ring.  Is this one of those that he gets whatever for you but the 2nd wife/or subsequent engagement he would take a 2nd job to get a nicer ring?  Sort along the PP line that said how she felt about the ring was actually a reflection of how she felt about the relationship and ended up breaking off the engagement.  In general, is your boyfriend, thoughtful and kind?  Is he the type to celebrate your birthday , remember your anniversary, make the effort in general?  If so, don't worry about the ring.  If he isn't, you have bigger issues to worry about.  See the forgotten birthday, missed anniversaries, unequal division of labor once they have kids posts on DCUM.  Posters hate when you ask, well was he like this when you married him, but to some extent, if he was like then when dating you would expect it to stay the same or get worse once married.[/quote]

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