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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Meet/Marry them before they are rich. That's how you do it. DH and I met at the top college we both attended. His grades were nearly perfect and he was debating law school or ibanking. AND he knew he wanted a family, even at 22. He's a keeper. Together 14 years, married for 11.[/quote]

That strategy involves getting these guys to commit while they're still in college and [i]don't know any better about their options in the sexual marketplace [/i][b]when they graduate. Now since women are also encouraged to go "explore" and what not less people are looking for their MRs in college, thats why this is falling by the wayside.[/quote]

My small-town, unconnected, unknown, debt-burdened, intelligent, hard-working, and ambitious spouse committed to me during graduate school.  And yes, now 25 years later and in their late-40s, they would undoubtedly have many options, given that they are well-known in their profession, very well-off financially, and well-connected in their professional circles.

There is no doubt that it helped my spouse's career greatly to have a very supportive spouse all those years.  A spouse who did not mind a decade of cheap dinners at home; taking the metro for years because we could not afford a car, and then finally buying a Pontiac(!); buying a modest house eight years in -- a small, post-war colonial in an untrendy neighborhood and an undistinguished suburb -- because that was all we could afford; late hours and weekends spent at work; and only modest expenditures on clothing and extras.

In other words, yes, one can marry a "rich" spouse early on in one's life, but it takes years and years of hard work, support, love, and understanding to get to the "rich" part.  That said, once you get there it is a huge feeling of accomplishment for both partners (whether one or both work), because you have finally made it and you did so together.  So if you are a young, ambitious, intelligent professional, the best way to "snag a rich spouse" is to help build one up in partnership with you.[/quote]

Article in WSJ about this.

http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052702304418404579465244191453008

Start up marriages vs Merger marriages

Merger marriages are what you tend to see on the weddings pages of the Sunday New York Times: highly educated couples in their 30s, both people well on their way to success. Lots of things can be said in favor of merger marriages. The bride and groom may be more mature, less likely to outgrow each other or to feel impelled, 10 years into the marriage, to make up for their lost youth.

But let me put in a word for startup marriages, in which the success of the partners isn't yet assured. The groom with his new architecture degree is still designing stairwells, and the bride is starting her third year of medical school. Their income doesn't leave them impoverished, but they have to watch every penny.

What are the advantages of a startup marriage? For one thing, you will both have memories of your life together when it was all still up in the air. You'll have fun remembering the years when you went from being scared newcomers to the point at which you realized you were going to make it.

Even more important, you and your spouse will have made your way together. Whatever happens, you will have shared the experience. And each of you will know that you wouldn't have become the person you are without the other.

Many merger marriages are happy, but a certain kind of symbiosis, where two people become more than the sum of the individuals, is perhaps more common in startups.

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