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[quote=Anonymous]I feel your pain, OP, and I think you are right to try to address it now if you are going to at all.  My DH has put on 100 pounds since being the college athlete I met, and I've posted about it on here.  It is hard not to be physically attracted to your spouse, but I've decided that is what I'm going to do.  He has to want the change at some point and on some level, and I don't want to be "that wife."  A large part of me feels like it is a piece of what marriage is about - he still likes my saggy boobs and wrinkly tummy skin after three kids (losing all the weight after three kids comes with some icky side effects) - and I still love him as a person and our family.

If you are going to push on it, it sounds like there are a few possibilities.

(1)  Are her days a "break" from the grind of having a new baby, so she is enjoying treats during her "time off"?  If so, she needs to find a healthier outlet, such as reading a chapter from a book or magazine or walking to CVS or around the block.

(2)  Is she famished from pumping at work?  If so, she needs to have a stash of healthy snacks and meals at work.  Don't underestimate how freaking hungry you can get while BFing.  I'm always ravenous while nursing, and I could never diet per se while doing so.

(3)  Is she anxious/overwhelmed despite all of your help?  That might be the trickiest of all, because she just needs to get her head into a place where she defines herself as a wife at least as much as she defines herself as a mother.

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