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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you again for the advice. I don't want to read the art of cross examination. I want peace in my life, some quiet. I don't want to argue, I don't want to fight. I don't want to expend any more energy trying to figure out if he is lying. At this point, I am done with that. If his lips are moving he is lying.

Him: My meeting ran late and I missed the train by 5 minutes!Do you believe it? next one is is in 20 m.
Me: that stinks, dinner is here, I'm going to run out and  go food shopping.
Him: okay I will see you in about an hour. 
I get home at 7, he gets home at 9. He is very talkative and starts talking about his meeting which was accidentally in a bar. It was an accident because while he was talking he mentioned how good his fish tacos were.
Me: you ate dinner?
Him: I didn't eat dinner! What are you talking about?
Me: you just said you had the best fish tacos.
Him: Oh right. I didn't eat your dinner. I ate the fish tacos. I thought you meant your dinner no I didn't eat dinner. You misunderstood me.

He thinks he is a brilliant liar. He probably laughs at my ignorance.

So as we see, this is a lot deeper than dinner or coffee or trains. These are ridiculous lies.
What is beyond belief is that I accept this behavior and have not left. 
I will be looking for a counselor to figure out why I accept this behavior and meanwhile get my ducks in a row.[/quote]

I don't understand why people do this. Even if you get pressured into a drink situation with your boss. It takes two minutes to text and let your spouse know your plan. My brother does this to my SIL all the time. I have no idea how she puts up with it. She will complain to me in the heat of the moment and get me all worried and upset along with her. Then the next day it's like nothing happened. Sometimes I will ask what ended up happening last night and she will say oh this or oh that, we're fine now.[/quote]

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