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[quote=Anonymous]We picked a close friend over siblings to be guardians of our kids in the event of our death.

If my sister ever finds out she will be devastated.  I, of course, hope she never will find out.

Our chosen guardians know they are the ones, and we had long, careful discussions with them when making this decision.

I love my sister, (and my husband loves his brother) but the decision was driven by what would be best for our kids, and in which home they would have the most stable environment.

My sister adores my kids, and she has a child of her own with whom they are very close.  However, she has a long history of debilitating depression and anxiety.  She has a marriage that is unstable and in which there is routine fighting and serious drama.  She and her husband have built a chaotic household and life and more than once have been on the brink of divorce.  Their child is showing signs of anxiety and stress that are worrisome.

The guardians we chose have had a long, stable, calm marriage.  They are godparents to my kids, and I am godmother to theirs.  They have built a family centered life of great security for their child, and they are physically and emotionally close to my family.  My friend has been my best friend since kindergarten - she is chosen family.

Should the worst happen the most stable, loving, secure household will not be my sister's.  It just won't.  I will hate to have my sister hurt, but the decision is driven by the best interests of the kids.

It's a painful thing to be sure, and I'm sorry you even have to know OP.  But you do need to respect their decision and acknowledge that maybe it is also the right decision for you. [/quote]

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