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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my DH and I have been married 16 years, but the first 6 months we were married were awful. I had never lived with a man, we both worked long hours at high stress jobs, moving into someone else's home was harder than I expected and, yikes, I was now a Wife. We had one fight (and I can't remember what stupid thing it was about) where my DH left the house in a snow storm and walked to a bar. That was the wake up call that we needed to figure out how to argue.

Don't miss the point here -- the point is not that he flirted with this girl and told you (that is just the spark that caused this fight), the point is that you two are somehow not communicating well and he has resorted to making unproductive comments like ..things have not been going well in a while.. in order to get some discussion. Figure out a way to fight fairly, know when to back off, deal with the long hours and the stress of being married by focusing on the good things. I found that reminding myself that we were married and therefore had made the commitment to work things out, made it easier to address and find a way to disagree.

I just wanted to share so that you would understand that sometimes the newlywed stage is not all that great. We had a lot of great make up sex and finally, figured out how to live together.[/quote]

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