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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like the experience helped confirm OP and her DH's pre-existing desire. uh, good for them I guess?  As for the generic advice to try childcare first, it falls flat to me. If the amount of work little kids take is enough to switch someone from wanting to not wanting kids, then they wanted them for the wrong reasons.[/quote]

You just proved her point by proving your point.  [b]Some people do want kids for the wrong reasons and probably shouldn't have kids[/b].  Not all but there are a good chunk of people who want kids for the worst reasons and everybody ends up sacrificing and not living life as they should so it doesn't necessarily fall flat but I do what you mean though.[/quote]

Of course, but the only wrong reason that a week with someone else's kids is going to address is "it's nbd to raise kids."  I doubt that is the most common "wrong" reason.

I think most often the "wrong" reason is to fix a relationship, and in a relationship that needs repair you wouldn't even be able to get the "live with kids for a week" experiment off the ground anyway. And even if you could, people will only draw the lessons from the experience that they want to draw--as OP and her DH did. [/quote]

How did that experience convey that it's no big deal to have kids?
It seems as though a week spent caring for children conveyed the message that it is a huge deal to have children.
There are many wrong reasons, including the though that children will somehow make your life worth living.
If your life isn't worth living before you have children, you should wait until it is.
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