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[quote=Anonymous]There are some key differences between taking care of other people's kids for a week and your own....

Unless you have multiples, with your own children, you start off with just one.  You see how it goes.  You assess the situation, you then decide if you want the second kid, etc.

Long term care is different than short term care, in that you will have a system in place with long term care:

You have your lifestyle set up to accomodate kids.  If you are the type who needs regular breaks, you have that weekly/biweekly babysitter to relieve you.  You have a gym with childcare, etc.  You will trade babysitting/slumber parties with other parents.  You and your spouse will give each other breaks.

Your furniture is chosen with kids in mind, you don't have to worry as much about damage because you've chosen sturdy/safe, likely inexpensive furniture knowing that you would have kids.

The mess is better contained if your house is set up for it.  We have bins, bins, and more bins.

The kids are more apt to play independently if they have all their toys around versus living in your child free home.

And in some ways, taking care of your own kids will be harder:  shuttling to birthday parties, sport activities, doctor appointments, medical issues, etc.

Honestly, I think people who are unsure shouldn't have kids.  Kids are a tremendous amount of work if you try your best as a parent.  Even though I love my children and wouldn't think twice about risking my life for theirs, I do miss the freedom of my childfree life.   Just getting out the door and crossing the street is a big to-do until they are capable of looking both ways.[/quote]

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