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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is a good father and takes care of a ton of things at home but he's been out if work for almost 3 years. He has been trying to get a job in a field that has cut a ton if jobs . In addition he doesn't have some credentials that others do-MBA etc. I have told him that he needs to put his pride aside and just get any job bc we cannot survive on my income alone. I don't believe that he will find a job in that field ever again. He is delusional and thinks something will magically appear. I am so at my wits end with this. I have huge resentment and feel like all feelings I had for him are withering away. We have a small child which complicates things. He takes care of the house and cooks and does laundry so it's not like he's not helpful. He also watches our child during most of the week which saves on child care. He has been looking for work networking and trying to get some consultant work- and trying to do this all while  taking care of a kid- which is nearly impossible. But I am pissed that he pretty much refuses to get a job 'beneath' him. How can I possibly do anything here? If I kick him out it will only make things worse- I will pay more for child care, have no help with my child and my child will not see him enough. I have no idea where my husband would go.. But I'm getting so fed up. He is a good person but just seems like he won't face reality.  I am so bitter because I feel like our life has gone to shit and there is nothing I can do about it. I'm stressed beyond belief and don't know what to do anymore. I can't live with a husband who never works or is always out of work- which is where I see my life going. I don't want tk break up our marriage but as time goes on I have less and less emotions and I can tell he feels the same . I've even thought to myself that if he cheated I really wouldn't care- how screwed up is that??[/quote]
You are living my life...so sorry... I have been married almost 20 years and our kids are 18 and 14 and they are wondering what is going on and loosing respect for their father because he will not get just any job but is holding out...for what?  Our savings and retirement is gone and we are barely hanging on by a thread.  He has given me no reassurance that he will do whatever it takes to save our house and at this point and time, our family , and marriage.  I am so tired of being resentful and disappointed.  This is not what I signed up for. I thought we were in this as a team and he has quit on us.  I just sit here shaking my head wondering if divorce is inevitable since my feelings are quickly vanishing and being squeezed out of me like a wet sponge.  I would be curious to hear how your situation ended up a year later.  I hope you are happy.
Tired and done[/quote]

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