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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]See here is the problem: you weren't fat back when he became attracted to you.  Long term, the odds are poor for a marriage between a self accepting fat person and a partner who finds fatness unattractive.  I certainly have lost attraction for my spouse who is over 45 pounds bigger than when we met and were married. [/quote]

So if a guy loses his hair over the years, is it okay for his wife to dump him because she finds bald men unattractive?[/quote]

Well the big difference is that hair loss is not within his control whereas weight control is 100% within her power.  
Nonetheless, if she seriously is not attracted to his unavoidable hair loss, then she should clearly tell him and ask him to explore options for "treating" hair loss. If he refuses and she is just plain in attracted, then Yes she should leave him.[/quote]

You have no idea of how the human body works. You bought the diet industry's line and swallowed it whole.

Educate yourself.

OP, don't listen to this idiot.[/quote]

OK I would never condone cruelty towards someone because they are fat.  It is doubly repulsive if it is coming from a spouse.  That being said,, the number of people on this thread who are trying to claim that weight gain is outside of someone's control is also appalling.  This woman may have too much on her plate right now to focus on her weight and health.  That is her choice.  But, fat people can lose weight if they exercise and cut calories.  There is no rocket science to it.  I am an internist and cannot tell you how many obese patients of mine claim they are sticking to rigid diets.  It is NOT TRUE.  How many obese people do you see in the developing world?  As a society we are eating our way into chronic illness and early death with our horrible diets.  Weight gain doesn't just "happen".  You empower yourself if you take ownership of your life and choices.[/quote]

AMEN.[/quote]

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