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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The double standards in terms of what is acceptable in a relationship never ceases to amaze me. If a woman is pregnant, she is the one who will decide if she gets an abortion: "my body, my decision" is the usual rule that is cited. And, rightly so.

But if a man chooses to donate his sperm without his wife's consent, according to most posters on this topic, the "my body, my decision" rule does not apply and the wife would view it as a betrayal and it would be grounds for divorce.

I am a guy and I personally can't see myself doing what OP says he is going to do but the double standard is difficult to ignore[/quote]

People can make whatever decisions they want about their own bodies, but they don't get to control how other people feel about it. So a woman has a legal right to make a unilateral decision about whether to have an abortion, but that doesn't mean her husband doesn't get to have feelings about it, or that he couldn't decide to end the marriage over it. Similarly, OP can make the unilateral decision to have a child with another woman, but that doesn't mean his wife has to accept it and stay married to him. I think most of us who were railing against what the OP planned to do were opposed to him doing it in secret (similarly, I would be opposed to a wife having an abortion without telling her husband in most non-abuse cases), without letting her know what he planned to do. We also personally might have felt he was making a stupid choice to jeopardize his marriage like that, but that part is his prerogative.[/quote]

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