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OP - Maybe it is time sit down with your husband and have an honest conversation about how he sees "Your Parents'" time with the new baby as perhaps more often than then thinks is typical.   It also might help if you sat down with a blank calendar with him as it is a new year and tried to map out a more sensible visiting schedule taking into consideration the holidays which are important to both of you to perhaps celebrate with a particular family, rotate or have both sets to your home AND also particular family events such as birthdays.  Then try together to work out visits with the out-of-town inlaws which may can include a special event such as one of their birthdays with  your family, BUT ALSO do stretch out their visits and break the idea of every three weeks to your house!!

I would also say that again looking ahead in the New Year that it would be very appropriate to tell them that if they are coming for a major holiday such as Thanksgiving or Christmas that it would work best since you would be having both in-laws for baby's first ?? to have them stay out of the house as your parents are doing.  "Or" tell them that you will be "rotating" who is in your home home for such a holiday from here on out.  In this way, DH will get to have the joy of your parents as you have the joy of his parents.

A pattern has been allowed to be established which does not bode well for any of you.  Two times in a season certainly seems reasonable rather than every month.  Also, if it possible for you and DH to go to their home, then I would also suggest that so that MIL and FIL might get an idea of what it is like to "host a visitor" monthly.  Make it over a holiday weekend and extend a day or so.  You need to find "a voice" and soon or it will soon be 3 to 1 in many ways.

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