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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I won't ask.  But when I said I finally had to say "we are trying", I think it is relevant that my husband and I actually got pregnant within 2 years of getting married and within 4 years of beginning our relationship.  So my frustration with my family was that they wanted a honeymoon baby and I wanted a little married life before kids.  I basically got home from the honeymoon and the henpecking started.  Little did I know that I actually couldn't have gotten pregnant at that time.  I only learned about the fertility issues after trying for a while (cuz that is how it works).

I am just reminded of the thread on here a few weeks ago where a person without kids asked about people being hostile to people who don't want kids.  I am not hostile but I just wonder if they have made a choice--it is normal to wonder.  They have been together a long time and they aren't getting any younger.

As I said, I won't ask and whoever said if I have to ask if it is ok, then it probably isn't, is right. [/quote]

If the in-laws are expecting you to hang onto all of your old baby stuff (crib, clothes, bouncy chairs, high chair, etc) just in case these two decide to become parents some day...well, that's BS.  You don't have to do that for them.  Do save (or give back) special family items like Grandpa's silver baby spoon or hand knitted clothes, etc.  But your house is not a warehouse.

I think it would be fine to say - "We're seriously running out of space in our house and we need to get rid of some these baby items.  If anyone would like them, please feel free to come by and get them.  Otherwise, they will be going out for the yard sale."  
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This -- I'm with the folks who say it's none of your business, but I didnt consider you might be weighing whether to save stuff or not. It's still none of your business whether they're planning to have kids or not, but I think you CAN say, "we have a bunch of baby stuff, and I thought about donating it, but before I do that, is there anything you think you might want me to hold on to?"

Note: if you're asking that as a way to get a hint of their childrearing plans, DON'T; if you're asking because you genuinely want to know what to do with your stuff, then that's ok.[/quote]

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