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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't understand the idea that just because someone is family, you can be less considerate of them. Or even if someone is single and childless (which others have mentioned), that they can give you their time.

All of that is irrelevant. People should be kind and considerate to each other - family, kids, single, employed, not employed, SAHM or not, or whatever.

It's incumbent upon the brother/SIL to at LEAST offer to pay for a convenient plane ticket, and a stocked fridge, petty cash for takeout, etc.

Of course family should help each other out, but when someone's helping you, you should minimized it being a burden on them. It doesn't matter if OP is only taking care of the kids in the evenings - it's still her time that she's giving up, and traveling to make things easy for her sibling.

When someone's helping you, you do whatever you can to make things easier for them. That's the bottom line.

Thankfully most of the people in this thread seem to think similarly, but some of you sound like users/takers who probably use guilt to take advantage of nice family members. Just because someone's family, doesn't mean you treat them with less regard.

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Actually some of us are people who gladly help family out when they need it and don't consider flying on miles or having a layover as being treated poorly. Some of us are glad to help out when a sibling is in a bind. Honestly if it is such a burden for Op - why would she even think to go? I don't get that. If you think your brother is just this horrible person taking advantage of you and treating you poorly and trying to embarrass - why would you even consider going?

So do you mean that if your parents or inlaws are coming to help out - say after the birth of a baby / to look after an older child, everyone would always pay their way and go out of their way to make sure the parents are as convenienced as possible and anyone that doesn't pay for their parents flights is an awful person who treats their parents poorly? Given many of the posts on here I don't think everyone is paying their parents flights and going out of their way to make sure their parents every convenience is met. [/quote]

Pp here, actually yes, I did pay for my mil to come when I had DC2 so she could help with dc1. But after the birth of a child it's normal for family to want to come. When you go on a business trip, not so much.[/quote]

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