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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am sorry, but asking OP to do this is is complete BS.  I assume OP is a SAHM, otherwise how can she just pick up and leave for that length of time? Isn't the 4 year old in preschool?

[b]So, OP is being asked to be the childcare, the maid, the cook, the entertainer, etc for her nephews.  She will have to do laundry, make and clean up meals, clean up the house, do grocery shopping, provide entertainment and supervision for the kids, etc. She will have to pay for her own food, etc while she is there, and I assume if the food runs out for the nephews as well.  I hope she is offered a car to drive, and when the tank gets low she has to refill it. This is ridiculous.[/b]
I had surgery a few years ago and needed to be on bedrest for a month.  My MIL volunteered to help. We paid for her plane tickets and a rental car.  We got babysitters to give her breaks.  We paid for all the food.  I never, in a million years, would take advantage of someone like this and on top of it have the Gaul to paint it as a "vacation" and not just be direct and say "sorry, we are in a bind for work with no one to watch the kids, can you help?"

If the SILs family is so great, why can't they do it? If kids already have a nanny, why can't she do it?[/quote]

No, OP won't have to do any of those things.  If you had read more carefully, you would have read that the brother/SIL have a nanny that will be there during the day.  OP only needs to put the kids to bed.  Huge difference.[/quote]

Not true.  She did say she will have to shop for more food.  It is unclear who is making the meals (will she be making dinners, breakfast, packing lunches?), nannies usually don't wash clothes, unsure who is doing housework, etc  She isn't just sitting on the sofa all night long eating ice cream like a high school babysitter.  She will be in charge of 3 small children.  The nanny apparently watches them after school until dinner time (that is my take on it).

When someone asks for a favor, especially one as large as this, trying to paint it as if you are doing them a favor for letting them do you a favor (you will get a free airplane ticket, you will get to spend all this time with my kids, etc.) it is extremely condescending.  OP knows what her brother is asking, and i think she is within her right to be a bit perturbed about it.  But if OP allows her brother to treat her this way, at some point it is as much her fault as his.

She should just be honest with him.  Watching children, especially three young boys all by yourself, during the often difficult evening and bedtime hours, is hard, VERY VERY HARD sometimes.  Do all the kids sleep through the night? what if one gets ill? This isn't a vacation for OP.  She's working, more than she would at home.  I find the entitlement attitude of some of the posters completely unbelievable.  OP has every right to feel annoyed.

The least of her worries I think is the layover. A layover for a 4 year old is inconvenient but not catastrophic, but I have more than one child now and for me just traveling with one kid would be like a vacation in and of itself.  [/quote]

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