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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If I have to tell my wife I'm going to divorce her before she'll make the effort to have sex with me, I don't want to have sex with her. That's just rapey.

To the OP - probably you've thought of this, but take a close look at birth control if she's on any. Hormones can really screw with a woman without her realizing that's what is snuffing her sex drive. [/quote]

OP here.  Interesting on the BC angle.  I have mentioned getting snipped so she can get off BC.  She actually has been against it, doesn't want to forclose us having more kids.  Which, in retrospect, shows that she really is in la-la land thinking our marriage is going to last.

Thanks for all the good suggestions.[/quote]

OP, you are a true ass.  If you aren't going to treat her with respect and be actively engaged and follow your marriage vows, do your wife a favor and leave.  Why drag her through an affair and divorce when it is going to lead to divorce anyway.   You are looking for someone to say it was a great idea, worked out great, wife was ok with it.
In terms of being a dad.  My dad cheated on my mom 10 years ago for several years.  My husband and I suspected it but had no proof (I would have told my mom).  We think it went on longer than that.  She tried to work things out after a separation and he kept cheating.  At that point, I was the one who pushed her to put him out again (I didn't support her taking him back as it went against everything they taught me).  I was very close to both my parents and with all the drama, now I don't feel close to either one.  You will hurt your kids more by cheating and divorcing rather than just divorcing.  My mom was miserable and took it out on me, which caused a rift.  She is now much happier with her new boyfriend and it has worked out well for her.  My dad is still having his flings and really regrets leaving my mom (she'd never take him back and he'd never stop cheating).  He is very lonely while she isn't.  Our relationship is very superficial now.  I hate to admit it but I lost part of the closeness out of lack of respect for him.  He has completely changed from the dad I grew up with who was very attentive and put our family first.  It makes me sad that I basically lost part of both my parents - not because of the separation so much as the affairs.  My dad, like you, justified it due to the lack of sex (just what a grown child needs to hear) and continues to even though much of the lack was due to his behaviors and health issues.

Just divorce your wife.  Give her the good car, house and kids.  Make sure she is set up well financially, including college for the kids and retirement... let her move on with her life.  You have your fun and see how life isn't greener on the other side.  Don't think your kids will not know.  Don't think that it will not alter a part of the respect your kids have for you.

Would you be ok if your daughter's husband had affairs on her?  Would you be ok with him having sex with someone, not telling her and her catching some disease that could kill her.

You don't deserve your wife.  Get a divorce, then move on.[/quote]

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