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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, it's good to respect your husband, the nanny and her profession, and yourself. However, I think it's insanely naive to discount human nature. Men find certain women especially attractive. Those are not the women you move into positions in your house. Common sense of the ages, learned the hard way by millions of people.

You can't live life in a cocoon, but this is not a test anyone needs. There will be no prizes for passing, but horrific penalties for failure. The years when your kids are little are very hard on a marriage. Why make things harder?[/quote]

I agree completely with this.

First of all, putting aside the issue of the husband, leaving your baby with a nanny will be its own emotional situation.  And you might find some feelings of jealousy that the nanny gets to spend so much time with your baby.  (and I'm not at all passing judgment here.  I'm actually pro-working mom.)  So that will be an adjustment in and off itself.

Why add into the mix the possibility of jealously over the attention your husband gives this other woman, too?  You would be setting yourself up for some trying times ahead.  And it doesn't sound like your husband knows how to behave around attractive women, especially potential employees.  (hint:  no potential boss should be obviously looking a woman up and down.)

And that leads to the third thing.  Although I'm sure it's rare, if your husband's behavior becomes noticeable to the nanny and you decide it's not working out and fire her, she might take some sort of action regarding sexual harassment/wrongful termination.  I'm not a lawyer, and I could be wrong, but it seems like a recipe for trouble.  The reality is that both you and your husband would essentially be this woman's boss.  If your husband is creepy around her, it's only a matter of time before she notices.  At the end of the day, it's unfair to her as well to work in a situation where her boss is ogling her.  [/quote]

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