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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Read "Growth Mindset" by Carol Dweck. Intelligence is not fixed.[/quote]

Yes, yes, THIS.  THIS.  Do this, OP.  It will give you tools to parent better--it changed the way I parent.

Also, I don't agree with those bashing you.  You are writing for help, and some people are taking the opportunity of you expressing your vulnerability to attack you.  This a particularly annoying aspect of some people.

I believe you are as sharp and driven as you say you are.  You and your DH have probably accomplished a lot through a combination of inborn talent and hard work--work ethic.

The work ethic, the "trying" mentality (rather than "succeeding") is what the Dweck book is about.  Basically, molding the brain to get a dopamine surge from *trying*, not from *succeeding*.  Paradoxically, those [b]kids who are primed to try, and don't care as much about succeeding, end up succeeding more, because the kids primed on success get scared and don't want to try new things, and pretty much stick with what they know[/b].  A parent has the power to create one type of brain or the other in the child depending on what they focus on and how they praise the child.  I'm making sweeping statements here, but that's sort of the nutshell and the book will go into it in detail.[/quote]

Add David and Goliath - Malcolm Gladwell

(I am thinking it will help you see why you are Goliath, your strenghts in the end are your weakness.)[/quote]

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