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[quote=Anonymous]My mom dropped out of college to have me.  She finished her undergraduate degree the same time I graduated college(the oldest) and went on to get two masters degrees.  I always thought it was a shame she didn't do it sooner.  She found the perfect career that is never boring, constantly learning, has a certain amount of creativity, and can pull together all her experiences as well as her degrees ...she became a teacher.

I sometimes think that I would love to be able to be my own boss for atleast once in my life.  I have always had a job since early teens so by the time I'm looking to retire it will be something like 40+ years of working for someone else.

So anyway OP, this is a dream you have and you have sacrificed and did what you had to do for years (not going away to college when you were younger, getting your certification to further the money situation but not what you really wanted to do) and you have a job that may be going away to show for all that dedication.  I think it is fair to want to go back now but you need to have a plan on paying your bills, paying for school, any retirement concerns, and what you committed for paying for college for your youngest.  You also have to work out any shifts in division of labor with your wife so for example if you were bringing dd to soccer practice one day a week and showing up at games you work something so one semester you don't take classes that evening and can do the drop off but maybe the next semester DW will do it.  It can't be three years of DW being like a single parent while you go to school. Less work with high schooler but still work. If my husband had a plan and was willing to figure out something that was the least disruptive to the whole family and where he was making the bulk of the sacrifices for something that in essense benefited him the most, I would okay with it. I would not be okay with a let's sell the house, eat ramen noodles, have dd pay 100% for college with student loans when we agreed to help pay for it, have DH say he can do nothing to help with our highschooler etc. while he pursued a dream that could be deferred 3-4 years.

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