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[quote=Anonymous]I don't think I would divorce my husband because he didn't make partner etc, I would however want to go to counseling if we had fundamental differences on what we valued and could not agree on the sacrifices to get there.  For example if DH came home and decided to quit his job and start a business I would be upset.  He could be working more hours getting the business off the ground while all household and childcare falls on me.  We have financial obligations, I.e. mortgage, that we have to meet while the business is starting up.  My job can be demanding at certain times and if I become the primary breadwinner I wouldn't want to jeopardize my job performance (just think of the 10 unexpected snow days).   I'm not saying I wouldn't support DH but if he didn't think to include me in the decision making process and didn't have a plan to deal with the changes (I.e. could we rent out a room to help bring in extra income or his mom agrees to help out in the beginning), we would have big problems.  The fact I had a family that struggled with money and value being frugal and planning way ahead with finances for the things that can be planned I would have lots of difficulty if I married a man that either was not like that or didn't bend enough my way that we could find a compromise.

So to the initial question if DH had the material expectations or lifestyle of a partner but never made partner or blamed me for not making partner then we would have a big problem. If he was lazy or had issues that he refused to address (ADD, depression, addiction etc) that resulted in him being unable to keep a job, again we would have issues.  Short of those things, I don't care if DH didn't make partner, goes into upper management etc.[/quote]

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