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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want to know if this is someone who jumps around from person to person, who attaches no connection or emotion to sex - it is just an act, or someone who sees sex as part of a relationship. How someone views sex is as important to me as how they view money. Past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior. It doesn't mean it is wrong or wrong but it is indicative of how they act, their patterns, their attitudes and beliefs about sex, and that is what should be compatible. I want to know about their sexual past in the same way I want to know about their spend/save habits, about whether they have had 2 jobs or a new job every month. If I am looking for a relationship where sex and intimacy and connection are intertwined then I am not interested in someone whose background is primarily one night stands. We aren't going to be compatible. For someone else who loves kinky sex with multiple partners, learning their partner is a virgin who has hang ups about sex might be a factor in determining compatibility. I want to know if they have cheated on 30 different partners or if they have been very loyal and faithful and in 3 long term relationships.

So if someone lies to me about their sexual past, I would consider it the same as lying about their financial past or their employment past, or any other significant area that has shaped who they are, how they act and what they attach meaning to.[/quote]

Are you this insecure and controlling in other areas of your life as well? I think therapy would be of greater benefit to you, than a partner's past. [/quote]

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