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There are 3-4 different issues all mixed up here and OP needs to separate them before having any discussion with him.

1.	 Her objecting to him going to a strip club.  How important is this really?  Would OP have the same angst if DH was going to a golf weekend instead of club hopping?

2.	 Her problem with DH going away for the weekend while she is home with the kids.  This is a larger issue than the OP lets on.  However, I noted that she had said more than once that he gets to go hang with the boys while she is home.  I assume that since he is the best man, he is pretty close with the groom.  So it seems like there is a little [u]“he is choosing his friends over me” vibe going on[/u].  Truthfully, if my spouse is going to be mad either way (just because I am gone), I am going to live it up for that weekend.

3.	The lying.  I do not condone it, but I understand.  PP was right, most men omit certain facts in order to keep the peace at home.  Believe it or not, DH is between a rock and a hard place on this one. [i] He does what his wife wants and he puts a damper on his friend’s festivities.  He goes along with the flow at the bachelor party and OP is mad. [/i] 
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I agree, and think #2 is what is really bugging OP. Strangely enough, he is between a rock and a hard place because he IS choosing his friends over her. She's stuck at home, while he parties it up. Seems like a reason to be resentful to me. How long will this reflect in their marriage? Will she always "remember that time.." that DH went out to party while she's at home with the kids (and newborn to boot)? Did he think about her wishes?  I think if he goes through with it, there will be consequences. [/quote]

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