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[quote=Anonymous]My spouse and I have been each others lives since Junior High.  From a distance these parents seemed attentive to all of their children.  Two are biological, my spouse is adopted.  Getting married gave an opportunity to listened and observed the family dynamitic.  When the curtain pulled back comprehensive overview boils down to emotional abuse.  The natural children were supported to go to college.  Adoptive child was told we aren't wasting our money on you.  (grades didn't reflect such statements)

What was said jokingly by parents " we used to tell (#@% that if said child misbehaved we will send you back to the store where we found you. Then they would laugh.  It's disgusting and inhumane.

I have many friends who were adopted.  Most had loving parents who gave encouragement, direction also with a soft place to feel safe.  Some had a mix of natural with adoptive children and the love in their home was for all the children.  Not in  my spouses case.

So to those who say adoptive children have emotional and attachment issue's  which justifies being treated differently.  I say this:  Any child whether by birth or
adoption doesn't come with guarantees.  Birth Certificates do not include crystal balls or road maps.  All children deserve love, hugs, time and patience.  When parents have reached as deep as possible; most take a cleansing breath, get ourselves together and try again.  That's a parents obligation and their joy.  There is not a sweeter sound than that of  happy children.  
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