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[quote=Anonymous]I am forty years old, I was adopted at nine.
I lived like a gypsy with my mom until she abandoned me when I was five, on vacation, in a different state from where the rest of my family was. My adoptive family was of a different nationality than I. My adoptive mother was emotionally abuse. They always reminded me that I was lucky they took me in, and I needed to me thankful that I didn't grow up with my mother who was screwed up in the head. I suffered from all the 'adoptive child syndrome' symptoms there are. I have always felt lost, like a cartoon character out of my element. I have always been a second class citizen. Its easy to criticize when we don't understand where somebody has come from, been, or going.
After reading these posts I have come to the realization that adopted children, many of them at least, are like the toys in the land of lost toys. Its very good to have a forum where people can reach out with one another, share their stories. Maybe even help one another. 
To the person asking what they should do, if they should leave or stay~ Get Your Education, but don't just get your education, Strive to be something that will make you good money! Like Be a Doctor, if you can't stand blood be A Lawyer~ Shoot Be The Friggin President!
Take advantage of every opportunity that you get in life! Are they feeding you? Are they making sure you have clothes on your back? Take advantage of the 'free-ride' while you can because when you get older and have to do it for yourself, if all you did was screw around and get in to trouble, you will not success comfortably. I can attest to the fact that I know its hard to be in a situation where you are being emotionally and even physically abused and you feel as though things will never change. I promise it will change and as long as your covering your own butt by taking advantage of every opportunity available to you you will succeed! It will be hard and at times you will feel like its not worth it, but it is worth it. You want to take Good Care of yourself when you are an adult and you cannot do that if you don't start by taking care of yourself as a kid. Everyone of you is important in your own universe, you are the leader, lead your own universe with pride and you will be repaying yourself with nice things. A home, a nice car, cable television and internet, yummy meals, Not Fast Food, vacations, and a good retirement. If you don't take care of yourself Correctly starting Right now in the future you will Struggle,I Promise~ you will find yourself wishing you'd done things differenty(like I do) and you will find yourself fighting yourself every step of the way. Don't let your abusers make you abuse yourself~ That is Silly Business! The priest at the church used to say it to the congregation at the end of the service and it just seems to be a fitting statement even though I am by no means religious, in fact I very opposite ~ Nevertheless 
Please People ~ Go In Peace and LOVE and Serve the Lord~ If your on the internet then take advantage of this time a Study Everything~ Start with "Adoptive Child Syndrome" understand yourself~ and work your way out from there!
 xox  [/quote]

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