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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do you know that hitting accomplishes nothing? Dont knock it til you try it. When my son is acting up [b]I look him dead in the face and ask do you want a spanking? He then looks at me and shakes his head and says "nononono" and stops the behavior that he was doing[/b].Most of the time I dont have to spank him because he stops the behavior after I threaten him with a spanking.

Alll of you people against spanking have probably never tried it and dont know how effective it can be.

So go ahead and continue to reason with your little snowflake, if you will. But dont be surprised when they turn into nightmares as they get older.[/quote]

So it's not the spanking that stops the behavior, but your consistency in carrying out a consequence after a warning.  The same could be said for a parent successful at saying "Do you want a time out?" (if age appropriate) or "If you do that again, you will lose TV for the rest of the day."  The child is responding to your threat/promise to carry out the consequence.  You just said most of the time, you don't even have to give the spanking, because he knows you are consistent.

I have never spanked my children, and I was never spanked as a child.  My parents didn't coddle me or engage in long-winded explanations that flew over my head.  They laid out rules and expectations, and consequences that were consistently enforced.  Those consequences do not have to include corporal punishment in order to be effective.  As parents in our home, we do the same.  My children are in high school now, and we've never had any "nightmare" behavior.

As far the OP--it's a tough call, but I would probably give the parent a glare and at least let him know another parent disapproves.  A slap in the face/shoulder/wherever is not very nice or successful parenting, but I don't agree that it's abuse.[/quote]

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