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In regards to co-workers with action packed weekends, there comes a point when you can't keep looking at what other people have.  There is a part of me that wishes my family was closer, both geographically and emotionally, but to continually lament that my best friend from college has a big family and has something every weekend isn't going to change the fact I don't have a big family and even when my family lived near Aunts and Uncles we didn't see them often.  My choice is either to have a big family myself or learn to be content with what I do have.  [/quote]

OP here.  I like the dog idea, and have been looking into adopting a dog, but we have 3 cats already, and I am concerned with how they would react to a dog.  The cats are wonderful company, but you're right, there's nothing like a dog to get you out and meeting people.  It's just with the 3 cats it would have to be a dog who really loves cats, and the cats would have to really like the dog.

Anyhow, it's the accepting that I will never have a big family and all the close connections and emotional support that comes with it , and the fact that I really have no one here to lean on that I seem to be having a lot of difficulty with.  Sure, I can call my college friends who are mainly on the West Coast to chat, but they can't be there for me if I have to go to the ER because of the flu when DH is on a business trip.  I can't seem to keep comparing myself to my co-workers and others I am acquaintances with who have close, loving families and tons of friends who they get together with all the time.

I just can't seem to accept this fact that close friends and family is not in the cards for me and be able to move on, I am always wistful and envious of people who have big, loving, close families who do things together and always have plans and people around to support them.  How do you accept this and move on and not be wistful and envious?  I feel that my inability to accept and move on is causing me to be miserable.  I literally think about this issue at least 20 times a day and think about how no one cares, over and over.   I am an only child, which makes things worse, since I don't have any siblings to be close with, and while I have a lot of extended family, they are all on the West Coast and have zero interest in a relationship--the being overlooked thing again.  My hometown is only a 15 hour drive from here, but my parents decided to move and retired to a place that's a 6 hour plane ride away.  So I feel like they abandoned me to move to a place that had great weather, etc. at the expense of knowing they would only see me once a year and it makes me so sad that they made this decision.[/quote]

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