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[quote=Anonymous]I forgot other possible options are softball and tennis.  I've known people to become good friends with people from the softball team.  I've also heard that there can be tennis clubs where after the matches they throw big parties and hang out afterwards.  you can also be the person that organizes neighborhood get togethers.  One of the coolest stories I ever heard is someone lived in a neighborhood where they extended the invitation to their neighbors for some sort of social gathering and spurred a tradition where all the neighbors would get together and alternate locations.  While I haven't done it in years, I remember playing spades in college with old friends and new friends.  My parents used to play cards when they went over their friends house while the kids went off to play.  Maybe an old-fashion card party, along the lines of poker night.  There are lots of options, you just have to find what would suit you best

In regards to co-workers with action packed weekends, there comes a point when you can't keep looking at what other people have.  There is a part of me that wishes my family was closer, both geographically and emotionally, but to continually lament that my best friend from college has a big family and has something every weekend isn't going to change the fact I don't have a big family and even when my family lived near Aunts and Uncles we didn't see them often.  My choice is either to have a big family myself or learn to be content with what I do have.  As I was talking about having a big family a lightbulb of an idea just came on.  Have you considered getting a dog?  That may help with some of the feelings of loneliness and social anxiety. it may also help you feel less lonely when your husband travels.  Also, dogs are a big social thing.  We have gotten to recognize many neighbors by them walking their dogs.  I remember one of my cousins saying that it was like she was invisible to her neighbors until she brought home a dog and suddenly everyone had heard about and wanted to see the puppy and from there she made social connections.  My kids have been begging for a dog so I have been researching dogs, intrigued by all the dogs with jobs articles I read, and really thinking about all the benefits.

Hope one of these ideas help.  Also, I have kids and I also had feelings of worry when my husband traveled that if anything happened, if I locked myself out of the house, or was in a fender bender when it was time to pickup the kids, what would happen.  I also had a situation when DH was in an emergency room and I felt like I knew lots of people but didnt feel close enough to lean on anyone.  I realize that I had my college friends that would be there for me in a heartbeat and I felt comfortble enough to call them - you still have college friends to call in that type of situation if you need to talk right?  Also, as someone else mentioned people often rise to the occasion if you give them half a chance.  When my washing machine broke down, I was frantically trying to find a laundromat.  Meanwhile my neighbor  later asked me why I didn't say anything sooner, that we could have used their washer.  It was that moment that I realized that I can sometimes be so self-reliant that I overlook the obvious.  So for example if you are going the dog route, ask people about dog rescue, dog fostering, finding a vet, training a puppy etc. Be willing to maybe have a dog sitting swap with another couple where you ask for help because you re going out of town but you are willing to do the same for them.[/quote]

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