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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have daughters.  No sons.  We’ve paid for three very nice weddings (mid 5 figures and up) without expecting anything from the grooms’ families and have been fine with it.  [/quote]

OP here. WHY are you okay with it? That's my question. Dig deep here if you can. I understand its history, but why would you continue a tradition so out of touch with the realities of today? Are you afraid of looking cheap? And fwiw, we have the means to pay for the wedding (mid 5 figures and up), but we'll give exactly as much as the groom's family will. My daughter is not an offering to the other family. [/quote]

Do you only have one child? I had a lovely wedding, but my inlaws only paid $300 for the rehearsal dinner food. We hadn't known they'd pay anything so we had done a very inexpensive rehearsal dinner where we cooked everything ourselves (we were 24 and broke). If my parents had only paid $300 I would have been hurt because they paid $X for my sibling's wedding. It was my inlaws though, so I couldn't say anything. My inlaws did pay 40k or so for their DD's wedding. Frankly $300 hadn't covered their plate at my wedding and was less than most of my aunts and uncles gave.[/quote]

Your in-laws sound like the type who are only capable of loving their daughters. Apparently people want and cherish their daughters but are disappointed with sons and treat them accordingly. [/quote]

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