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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My (45M) girlfriend (40F) has a dog whom she loves as a child. I have two teenage kids with my ex (shared custody) and GF does not have or want children of her own.

I like dogs, but my girlfriend is devoted to her dog at another level. Not so much in the weird annoying babyish way like taking her dog in a stroller or something like that, but in the way that the dog is pretty central to her home life and has to be accounted for in any or all plans. The dog is a rescue German Shorthaired Pointer (GSP) that has very high exercise needs. Every other weekend, my girlfriend must take the entire day to go on a hike or “spend quality time with my dog.” The dog is allowed on all the furniture except the bed which was a compromise. It also has to come with us for every trip we take unless it is a plane trip. She’s a nice dog, but is very attached to my GF and kind of a neurotic Velcro dog.

Is this normal for a 40-year-old woman? Or is this a red flag? I want to invest in this relationship but I understand that neither of us is each others priority. My kids come first, of course, but with her, I think I’m in third place, behind (1) her 78-year-old mother and (2) her dog. [/quote]

It's normal to take good care of other living beings.  It's actually a good sign of her responsibility. However, it doesn't reflect well on you that you're unhappy in life if you're not #1 or 2.  Why do you feel such a need to rank and judge?  Why is it not ok for her to put two living beings higher in importance than you, when you are clear that your kids will always come first.  She's not number 1 to you either. Don't you think that's a little sexist? 
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DP. Insane take.

Human relationships come first.

—Dog lover/owner[/quote]

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