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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have close family friends who have probably a 400k+ HHI and we would travel together and they were SO CHEAP that vacationing with them was hard.  They never want to eat a proper meal out, they don’t want to do activities that cost money, it’s impossible.  They want to make meals at the beach house and I love cooking but I’m on vacation!!!  We are pretty frugal but it was too much for me.[/quote]

We are/were friends with a couple like this. I basically won't hang out with them anymore. For context, the DH of the couple is a professional and they live in a townhome that is paid off, and was paid off years ago.

Some examples of how my patience ended: 1) I felt like spending a day in Georgetown, and another couple who is also friends with this cheap couple was going to come along with DH and I and shop and have a nice lunch together and walk along the canals. We agreed to invite cheap couple. Cheap couple was told about the restaurants we were considering for lunch. Cheap couple became adamant that we should have picnic by the boathouse area instead, with one person bringing "a loaf of bread," another bringing the "mayonaise and mustard" and they would bring the "cold cuts." Because "restaurants are rip offs." I put my foot down on that, and we went to out to lunch, and the DH of the cheap couple sighed over the menu and rolled his eyes and went on about the cost of it. Another example: We had spent NYE with that same other couple, the not cheap couple, several years in a row at a party thrown at a DC hotel. Dinner, band, champagne toast, that kind of thing. And it wasn't terribly expensive, about $200 per person. Well, that couple reached out to ask cheapo couple if they wanted to join us. It turned into a huge thing, with like less than 2 weeks to NYE to go, with cheapo DH insisting we all go to one of the free "First Night" things available in the area (I think the big one he pushed is Alexandria), or at least wanting to "shop around" to find cheaper things to do. When it was getting late in the game to get reservations I asked DH about where we stood and he checked in with non-cheapo couple, and they reported back that they still needed to hear back from cheapo couple "on the pricing." I lost it with that one and  I told DH "That's it, we are doing NYE on our own this year, and going out for a really nice dinner just us two like we used to."

Can you be cheap as hell like that cheap couple? Sure. Are you going to be able to maintain social ties? No. For context, in case this wasn't clear, cheapo couple could afford all the damn Georgetown lunches and hotel parties you could ever imagine, it's not a question of being able to afford it or not. [/quote]

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