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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I didn’t discuss this with him before, because I knew how he’d react, and didn’t want to deal with it until later. He has no reason to be angry or to distrust me. I wouldn’t mind if he did the same.[/quote]

The problem is not that your husband is weak and insecure, it’s you doing something that you know would be a problem with no concern for your spouse.  Your avoidance of the APPROPRIATE conversation is immature and disrespectful.   My high school daughter pull this stuff on homecoming and lost her phone for a month, plus she couldn’t go to prom.   It doesn’t matter if anything inappropriate happens, you lack maturity and integrity.   [/quote]

You punished your daughter for not communicating with her boyfriend?. Not sure you should be giving relationship advice.[/quote]

No, she secretly made plans that she knew would not be acceptable to us and waited until the pictures to come clean.   She showed us that she didn’t respect the boundaries we put in place and was too immature and selfish to be trusted.

If he hates all her friends and tries to isolate her, he is a controlling ahole, but it sounds like he was fine with her going to the wedding.  Her description of the situation was she is aware that DH doesn’t like or trust this guy and secretly decided to make plans with him.  I would have handled a similar situation with my wife like this- Tell DW the offer was made and while I was not concerned that it was inappropriate, I politely declined the offer out of respect for your opinion of XYZ and will just see her at the wedding with everyone else.  If you are sneaking around, it is wrong.  If he is controlling- leave him, if he is wrong about the guy then tell him that he is a good friend and you would appreciate him investing time to get to know him, but sneaking around prioritizes the friend over the husband and that makes her a bad spouse.   [/quote]

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