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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids were working junior year and senior through college and fully funding themselves. Some people have different values *shrugs*[/quote]

Good! It’s the ones who are 100% financially taken care of that come out of college totally unprepared to be on their own.  [/quote]

We’ve supported both our kids. Paid in full for college and now one is in grad school and the other is crushing it but in an industry that doesn’t pay well at entry level. I’m not going to have him live someplace unsafe to make some kind of point. He’s also able to make max contributions to his retirement now which is when it matters most. Right now we’re still helping with rent and health insurance for him and he’s slowly assuming more financial responsibilities as his pay creeps up.

We have a deal, they work hard and spend reasonably and the support keeps coming. When they decide to buy drinks for the whole bar or purchase nonsense items, the wallet is closed. They’re both frugal and really nice people. [/quote]

NP-That's really tricky and depends on the child. I have two and I'd have no issue helping the frugal one who already works through college. The other one though? I worry that helping him is enabling him. And of course you cannot have a double standard with kids because it's a recipe for bad relationships all around. I am hoping both will require no help because helping my less responsible one seems like a slippery slope.[/quote]

You’re right. It’s really hard to manage and give each kid what they need which isn’t always what they want. Fairness is so important so it’s a delicate balance. Good luck to you! [/quote]

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