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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I promise this is not a slight to you or your son. They can’t cater to every guest, even close family. Their wedding is about them, not about you and the gifts you have given. (Please think about what your post implied. Clearly the money wasn’t a gift because you now think it had strings attached). For one day, let them make decisions in THEIR best interests, even if you don’t understand them. 
Imagine if every important person in their life wanted some accommodation at their wedding. It becomes exhausting and unnecessarily stressful trying to meet everyone’s expectations. It is one day. You can decide to attend or not to attend. But it is petty to change your gift or not talk to him because you were not made to feel special at his wedding. Repeat as many times as necessary - this decision has nothing to do with you or your child. [/quote]

Op here - The money was given because I felt close to my nephew and wanted to help him.  It is not so much that I expect something for it, but that this lack of invitation for my child and lack of conversation about it initiated by him indicates to me that we are not actually close at all.[/quote]

Is your nephew's family hurting financially?  That sounds very generous of you but way more than I've given my nephews and nieces over the years- have you given that much to the others too or only this nephew?  If they don't have a lot of money that could be another reason for a small wedding, and unfortunately kids are often the easiest to cut.

Anyway, I don't think you have to decide anything now.  Take a few weeks to cool off and decide whether to still attend on your own or not.  FWIW, I get not having local family or friends you're comfortable imposing on for a weekend - I don't have that either.   If you don't have a readily available childcare option at the destination then you can either attend solo or send your regrets due to the lack of childcare.  Send a gift comparable to what you'd send other relatives- no need to be petty but also no need to go overboard like you have been.

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