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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Step kiddo 27 was a “promising student” in school but hasn’t been much successful. Graduated from college with niche/unhelpful major, tried out the job rodeo (failed), now moving back in with us. I don’t support it, you’ve gotta move out and find yourself in that way, right? It’s what I always did and I turned out I just fine if I do say so myself. But DH claims that I “never saw [step kid] as my own kid” and that’s what’s fueling my feelings. Well no, I saw my step kid as my step kid. All right and so what? The issue I need your helps with is encouraging my STEP child to move out while avoiding drama with DH. [/quote]

Maybe you should move out? Find yourself in that way? It would be a kindness to both your husband and his child. Because, frankly, you sound like a festering, rancid twat. [/quote]
OP here. Excuse me?[/quote]

Ignore. They are a bunch of exwifes who hate Stepmoms.[/quote]
100%[/quote]
[b]The wicked stepmother archetype exists for a reason.[/b] Not all stepmothers are terrible, but they aren’t doing much to hold up their side in this thread. The total lack of concern for SK and the race straight to DIVORCE him and take all MONIES is not a good look.[/quote]
Op here and right away this tells me all I need to know about you. Gross, ignorant. I’m not wicked, and I’m a good parent and a good stepmom.[/quote]

The real issue for you might be that you're easily triggered and more worried about what people think about you than what's best for everyone, including you and your own daughter. There's nothing evil about not wanting to live with your spouse’s 27-year-old, especially if you are concerned it's going to be a long-term situation that negatively impacts your quality of life or retirement goals. You probably need an individual therapist to help you figure out what you want and how to set and enforce boundaries.  Don't live your life in avoidance of being called names of shamed by people who are projecting their own issues on you. [/quote]

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