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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some adults truly do not understand child development. They react to chidren as if the behavior is coming from a human with a fully formed brain.

I think OP is on the right track with counseling and anger management, but I would also reocmmend that she make him read books on child development and parenting. And do it quickly, becuase your child's personality is being formed by these negative interactions.[/quote]

Completely agree and I don't want to be pessimistic but I think so much of this behavior co-occurs with other destructive traits. I am the PP whose DH refused to even listen in on the PEP class. Absolutely doesn't understand development or what's age-appropriate behavior or processing but also just doesn't care / thinks he's smarter / always finds excuses why strategies wouldn't work vs trying to learn or try to see the takeaways.[/quote]

My DH had a pile of ignored parenting books and classes that he signed up for in a showy way and never attended. He was in total denial of any concepts of parenting or child development, and as our DC got to the older elementary years he snapped. The idea that a child was a separate person with agency was too much for him and he went into a violent rage in relation to something DC was legitimately upset about.

His reaction to that was to serve me with divorce papers with no warning and to then start a custody battle. How dare anyone tell him how to parent!

It’s a nightmare. OP, I don’t want to scare you but do have some general safety and independence plans filed away in the back of your head.[/quote]

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