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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I transferred.  My freshman year experience was infuriating from a social standpoint.  I had a depressed, mean roommate, there were safety issues with drunk men in my dorm, and I was unsatisfied with the liberal arts college and honors program.

What helped a lot during the year was taking an active interest in my classes and going to office hours.  There were at least 3 professors who made me feel seen.  My Western History professor gave me a book off his shelf to keep.  My English professor knew about my plans to transfer and discussed them with me and gave me advice about grad school.  My Social Psychology professor was a really good prof who had lots of insights about people that I still remember.  I was in two choirs and although nobody particularly reached out to me, making the music was a beautiful experience.

Transferring wasn't perfect.  But the kids around me we were a better fit.  More respect for the liberal arts.  Humbler and less spoiled.  I was delighted to get a single after a spending a year with a bad roommate.  I joined a smaller choir and met my husband.  I'm still sorry I didn't start there my freshman year.

This was a flagship to flagship move, maybe a slight step down in prestige.  It was closer to home although I didn't go home much.

My feedback to you is that it's good to have options but also to be open-eyed.

Maybe your daughter needs to keep looking at EC's.  Maybe she could put out a call for roommates for a shared apartment for next year, etc.

Keep in mind that things go very similarly when you move out of home/away and take a first job.  That can also be isolating.  And it takes time to reassemble a community around yourself.[/quote]

Poster 12:23 here.  This is all excellent advice.  [/quote]

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