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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Giftedness completely aside, study skills are really, really important for college admissions. That includes writing out your thought process to check for accuracy. Being very intelligent doesn't immunize you against making small mistakes that throw off your final answer. There are some very smart people who are just disorganized and don't earn the top grades. There are some people who are less smart, but are very organized and do earn the top grades. If you want your child to succeed, you need to work with them on basic study skills. Raw talent is only one variable in the equation.[/quote]

And, btw, this is why we praise hard work in our house and not being smart. When our daughter succeeds at something we never say "wow, you're so smart!", we say "that's wonderful, you obviously worked very hard at that."[/quote]

We did too. I will tell you now that this isn't doing your kid any favors, especially if they actually are smart and don't need to "work hard" for the results, and for some kids hearing this lie over and over means they grow up thinking they aren't smart or they develop imposter sydrome, so they only rise to the low bar set by schools or the suceed while seething with anxiety under the surface where you can't see it.

Second point for other kids: Schools will NOT identify ADHD in a smart kid. When you find yourslef saying "he's really gifted, so his low grade must be because he didn't try hard or [fill in the blank]," do yourselves and your kid a favor and get a full neuropsychological exam to make sure you don't wind up with a frustrated and depressed 2e kid who doesn't start to get the help they need until 10th grade. Even geniuses need help if they have ADHD, becasue ADHD isn't about intelligence.[/quote]

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