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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My teens eat about the same, one is skinny no matter what and the other puts on weight.
Parented the same way, fed the same way, etc. it’s hormones and metabolism and some people get the short end of the stick. All you can do is choose healthy foods at home, single serve desserts like Trader Joe’s hold the cones instead of gallons of ice cream you scoop into a bowl can help with portion control. [/quote]

Agree. I have twin teens. So much of this is outside her control. Just like some people gain a lot in pregnancy and others just don’t. I can’t believe people still think the skinny teens have more willpower. They are eating crap too. Their bodies just process it differently and feel different hunger. [/quote]

It isn’t that the skinny teen has more willpower.  It’s that they don’t have the mechanisms that control cravings, hunger, and satiation are working properly.  The skinny teen isn’t prone to overeating- they are able to effortlessly eat what their body needs and stop when they have had enough.  [/quote]

This.  It's literally the science behind the success of GLP-1.

I am amazed at the number of people who still don't get this.  I do think it's out of people's control but it's not some people can just eat more.

I have a skinny teen boy and he doesn't eat large quantities at the end of the day.  He eats junk but his quantity is never out of control.  He is the type of person who forgets to eat.  He doesn't think about food all that often.  My other child is less wired this way and I see the difference.[/quote]

This is also a huge challenge for us as a family. My two girls, 10 and 13, are so wildly different I can hardly believe they are both mine. The 10 year old was BORN hungry, has always been a higher weight percentile, and is now overweight but also tall, so not as apparent. She is like a bloodhound for sweets and starches. She'll eat a stale plain bagel she found in the back of the freezer or the worst processed cupcake ever served, then go back for more. The 13 year old can forget to eat until noon, can take or leave something she's not crazy about, but then eat thirds of a meal she loves. Like OP, I'm acutely aware to how it could impact younger DD if I address this, but I see with my own eyes how she has zero control over her appetite and I worry for her. I know this is my own internalized fatphobia or whatever, but it's absolutely true (and the comments in this thread support it) that she'll be judged for being overweight, and we'll be judged as her parents for "letting" it happen. Harder still that she sees her older sister "eat whatever she wants" and stay thin, when the reality is her sister's appetite (NOT willpower) is completely different. For now I only model, model, model, never criticize or make direct comments about bodies or what/how much anyone's eating. Only comment about myself, how I ate enough and I feel full, how I enjoyed the good dinner I made. I hope this, coupled with being an active family, will be enough to keep her on track. If not, we'll address it more directly and hopefully not give her an eating disorder or terrible body image. Damned if you do/damned if you don't, you know?[/quote]

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